Comments on: A Normal Marriage?

By: Pastor Rod Sprauve

Pastor Rod Sprauve — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 20:03:46 +0000

Shaun,
Precise and authentic! Chuck Swindoll once said: "The beautiful music of living is composed, practiced and perfected in the harmony of home!" When the composition is genuine and the practice intentional, the harmony will, even in its occasional dissonance, be perfected over time.
A wonderfully transparent post Shaun.
Peace,
Rod Sprauve

By: June Linkathons « BrianD blog

June Linkathons « BrianD blog — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 19:03:47 +0000

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By: jeffvickers

jeffvickers — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 12:05:25 +0000

I appreciate hearing this.

By: Cindy -

Cindy - — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 23:27:28 +0000

We as a country need to fight for everyone's rights and make it harder for a marriage to be dissolved in "man's" judicial system. It has been researched and proven that a marriage at the brink of divorce even already separated…if the couple works on it; if interviewed around 5 yrs, that same couple will have no regrets that they stayed together….and most are happier than they ever have been.

Too often a couple does not realize they are still married by God even with the paper of divorce by 'man.' Couples need to go through (should be mandatory for each state's laws) a very structured and detailed premarriage program by professionals that have to have documentation of what they provide in the program and do it. A couple should not be married until they have proof they both have attended the complete program. There would be less divorces…..(divorce -money producer for the attorneys and the judicial system while no one wins in the family involved)

[Shaun by what I have seen you do a great job counseling couples before marriage....we need more of this-thank you and continue it]
God Bless all whose paths cross this page……………….

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By: Cindy - God Bless

Cindy - God Bless — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 23:24:44 +0000

Shaun, this was a great post!!!
I have shared and pray others will read it and understand it. Thank you for sharing the truth. (I say the same about my children…They were 'normal-perfect boys,' not 'angels.')

Unfortunately our judicial system has made it easier to get out of a marriage than any other contract. It has also made it so the one the wins with the system is the one wanting the divorce, often allowed knowingly to lie about certain specifics (heads turned) so they get it and as fast as they want it.

The person in a marriage that may be going through a bumpy trail (along with the partners on their own bumpy trails) that wants to stand for their marriage and stay in it because they know just what you posted (and it is/was experienced for many yrs just what is stated) is true becomes a victim of the judicial system and they have no rights at all. The one wanting a divorce gets what they want and the other partner is dumped on the side of the road and abandoned by their partner that made a covenant with each other and God that special day of marriage.

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By: Ms. Understood

Ms. Understood — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 15:20:54 +0000

If in order to be successful in marriage my husband and I needed to be Cliff and Clair Huxtable, we would have not gotten married, taken our money and blown it on an exotic trip (since only perfect marriages last, why bother, we knew we wouldn't be). I love my normal marriage and I love my husband.

By: se7en | religion sucketh

se7en | religion sucketh — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 05:43:44 +0000

[...] boring stories and the power of listening without judging.Shaun King with a great post on how a normal marriage IS NOT going to be a Cosby Show marriage.Pete Wilson explains how margin is essential for the unexpected.Jesus didn’t say that the world [...]

By: Thomas Simerly

Thomas Simerly — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 16:50:47 +0000

I love this! My mother works in the court system and it's really sad to see all the couples that come through her doors and get a divorce. It's hard on them, their family, and if they have kids, it is most difficult for them. I'm engaged, but not married yet. I wish people really listened word-for-word to everything said in their vows to one another. We say "I do" to all of it, which includes "for better, for worse." Thanks for writing this. Many young people my age need to read this.

By: Tracey Axnick

Tracey Axnick — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 23:20:50 +0000

Excellent post, Shaun. And so important, esp for young couples to hear. My husband and I just celebrated our 18th anniversary. Has it always been "strawberries and rainbows"? HECK no! In fact, sometimes we've stuck with it just because we were BOTH too stubborn to give up.
You have to remember that YOU married an imperfect person and (hello!) so did your spouse! Life is imperfect! There will be stress! If you have jobs, kids, in-laws, neighbors, etc….. THERE WILL BE PROBLEMS! Commit. Stick it out. Keep going. My belief is that people lean WAY too much on emotion, versus what they KNOW. Same with faith…. you have to keep going, even when you're not "feeling" it… life is full of seasons.
My advice to couples: Don't give up!

By: Randy Kinnick

Randy Kinnick — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 20:40:30 +0000

Word! "Normal" not perfect. Commitment is staying through all the ups and down for the long haul. It is worth it and it is all good…happiness is sometimes over-rated. Joy in fulfilling my commitment and living in the grace and love of my marriage is not. Thanks for sharing.