Comments on: Making Your Spouse Comfortable with Risks

By: Sistory (twitter)

Sistory (twitter) — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 01:39:01 +0000

While I’m not planting a church, I am planting a seed as an entrepreneur. So glad to see your post. It is so importnt for family to understand and support the process of a dream. Often the dreamer leaves them out in the cold without sharing the true vision. One day I realized I was walking alone mainly because I had not invited family to walk with me. The more I share with them, the more they understand the long hours, the infinite hours on the computer and the compromises we have to make. They are also more supportive during the set backs.
Since I can’t clone myself I make sure to watch for signs of frustration. When they want to help, I make sure to delegate and let them help. When they want some quality me time, its theres – so when I want some quality work time, its mines.

By: lisa wentzel

lisa wentzel — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 03:53:00 +0000

this topic is so close to my heart, glad you discuss it. and that your wife lets you.
i worked in ministry as a church employee for years, while married to a non believer. submitting was a moment by moment discussion with God for me. and i learned that nothing can stop Gods plan.
with that understanding, i also sold vision, took care of his needs, sought out his advice, and always told him that i would never take on what he did not allow. i would say that this did slow me down greatly to make him comfortable, but it wouldnt be love if it was all about my pace.
it was never easy however. he never liked my work, initially. his desires were often not God honoring, and so these things were difficult. makes sense, what non believer would freely give his wife and her time to other things for other people.
i learned that for me it all came down to prayer. i prayed. i acted . i asked the hard things. i was scared of arguing, disappointing and fighting. at first i wasnt bold or brave, but i was more scared of letting my family grow apart from God ways and i grew strong yet remained submissive. i grew to love the word submit, its quite safe if you live it.
God ALWAYS changed me, and always brought my husband to the place where he said…yes. sounds fine…go ahead. i literally saw God move a heart, when he wanted to, which was often enough. I would go as far as to say that if you are walking with God your spouse cannot stop what God intends for you to do. you can submit and obey God fully. its tricky.
i have not yet seen my him be ” joyful” or excited, but he does usually see some positives, and will say that what i did was good, in the end. he does believe that i have special God angels in my life. 19 years later, he says that does not quite understand me. i long for him to know the freedom i know. so does God, who waits with more patience than i. i suppose that the “struggle” of the spouse can create the space in which God is shared in the way we handle it all.

By: Shaun King

Shaun King — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 19:59:06 +0000

Thanks a ton for your insightful comments.
We are looking forward to seeing you there!
-Shaun & Crew

By: CAlexis

CAlexis — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 08:02:06 +0000

Pastor Shaun, you are a man of GOD and like you said earlier failure is NOT an option…. yes we all think about it, I think that is one of the biggest disappointments to the human race….to know that we can fail…but what happens when you fall…you get right back up and keep going…my mom recently shared some good advice with me…I’m quite sure that you have heard it, but I’ll share it with anyway…be careful what you put out into the universe…what you speak is what will become! You have many supporting you including you’re family, I think that we as women are born with a maternal instinct to want to protect and keep harm or disappointment from anyone that we love and care about…which is probably why your wife was a bit hesitant at first…keep doing what you do and keep GOD first…Can’t wait until 1/11/09!!!!!