From the monthly archives:

April 2008

Mike Foster, a young, creative leader that I admire a great deal, recently posted a great blog on why men should be happier.  I have pasted it below.  Do you have any more reasons to add to this?  I posted one at the very end.

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Consider this: Your last name stays put. The garage is all yours.
Wedding plans take care of themselves. The world is your urinal.  Same
work, more pay. Wrinkles add character. Wedding dress $5000. Tux
rental-$100. One mood all the time.

Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat. You know stuff
about tanks. You can open all your own jars. You get extra credit for
the slightest act of thoughtfulness. Your underwear is $8.95 for a
three-pack. The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades.

Any other reasons why men are(should be) happier?

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I think being able to pee standing up is major bonus….although some women do try this.

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So, my wife and kids were amped all day yesterday about getting a free Ben & Jerry’s ice cream cone.  I kid you not, when we made it to Ben & Jerry’s yesterday (a tiny store in the Virginia Highlands neighborhood), I saw the line from a distance.  I was shocked, because I could tell from the car that a few people were waiting in line for their ice cream cone.

However, the close we got, the longer the line appeared.  We didn’t have time to snap a photo, but we saw at least 150-200 people in line, stretched down a few blocks, waiting for their free ice cream cone.  Black, brown, white, rich, young, old, homeless, kids, babies in strollers, grunge, punk, hip-hop, business suits – I saw it all.  No joke!  It was wild.  We ended up going to Whole Foods and buying overpriced desserts.

I wonder if the recession has anything to do with that long line?  I bet so.

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In spite of Paul Pierce throwing up a gang sign (are you serious Paul?) from the Inglewood Bloods, we beat the Celtics anyways! We’re going all the way baby! Haha! 

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I recently learned of a book, Leading While Limping: Turning Your Struggles Into Your Strengths, that is really helping me out.  I am definitely a limping leader.  Literally.

I talk about it a great deal on this blog, but for those of you that may not know, I live with regular pain.  I was assaulted nearly twelve years ago and sustained serious spinal damage that has required three surgeries, a ton of therapy, and a great deal of emotional energy to overcome.  My pain is constant, but the severity of it fluctuates from moderate to severe.  After straining my back somehow on Saturday, it has been severe for the past several days and I am walking with a major limp and have considered getting a cane to help me move around better.

I hear a voice in my head telling me to give up on so many things.  Other "wise" people have advised me to do the same.  What that voice and those people don’t understand is that I hear that same voice tell me not to get out of bed in the morning, not to go to physical therapy because it is too painful, not to sit at the table to eat dinner because it’s too uncomfortable.  If I listened to that voice, I would be a bed-bound hermit.

That voice and those people don’t understand that this may be the best my body ever feels and I have to pursue God’s plans and my passions today whether I am in pain or not.  I wish that I wasn’t hurting so much, but I am learning that many of the greatest leaders (and pastors) throughout history had major physical and psychological limps and challenges that they had to live with on a daily basis.

My pain causes me to rely on God for the simple things.  It causes me to be sensitive to hurting people.  It causes me to rely on the Lord for my future.  I may never get a chance to run a marathon, but getting out of bed and taking my son to school today sure feels like one.

I’m going to lead and limp and refuse to let my struggles dictate my dreams.

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Wifey
I have been in a lot of physical pain over the past few days after really straining my back on Saturday morning.  I just wanted the whole world to know that my wife, a real-deal diva, has stepped up in a major way while I am resting to prepare for a busy week.

She even did something unthinkable in my house………she took out the garbage – looking good in high heels no less.  Thank you babe for preparing breakfast, lunch, and dinner.  Thank you for running errands and getting the stuff ready for the kids tomorrow, thank you for fixing milk for EZ, thank you for laying the booger down for a nap – thanks for really holding it down.

I love you woman.

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I was watching the NFL Draft yesterday and quickly noticed just how big of a role character played with all of the draft picks.  I learned a major lesson and want to share it with you.

Mel Kiper, the NFL Draft guru for ESPN, had players rated on a scale based purely on their physical skills and potential.  One guy was described as being "the most talented player in the draft at his position" and a "top 10 pick based on talent," but was not drafted anywhere near where his talent said he should be picked.  The guy was still chosen in the first round, but dropped between 10-15 spots because of very credible character concerns.

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Here is the kicker, his legitimate character issues (mainly constant marijuana abuse), will likely cost him, based on previous salaries, anywhere from $8-$20 million dollars in signing bonuses and total rookie salary.  I told my wife, but it’s true, that dude smoked the world’s most expensive joints!

Another guy, several months ago, was thought to be THE most talented player in the draft and was projected to be a top 3 pick.  He was still drafted high, but dropped, in part, because it was discovered that he already has multiple kids by multiple women.  Dropping a few spots at the top of the draft cost him millions of dollars!

Bad character will eventually cost you financially, but good character can actually open doors for you and earn you more money than anyone would ever expect.

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Case in point, with the criminal scandals of Mike Vick (still breaks my heart), Pacman Jones, and the entire Bengals football team, guys with good character were in MAJOR demand yesterday.  So much so, that athletes that were rated as being the 25th-40th most talented players in the draft were routinely taken much higher than that because teams wanted men that would be good examples and leaders for their team and community.  For these guys, their good character has paid off in more ways than one.

It is imperative that we stress the real benefits of good character for our kids.  It pays, being a scoundrel costs.

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John Ashcroft quickly learns that when you "slip" up and call Obama by the name of the most known terrorist in the world, you simply cannot recover.  Bet he doesn’t do that again.

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HemigrillOK.  Even though my grill is not this doggone cool (I wish it was), the cookout that my wife and I are hosting next Saturday is going to be even cooler (and busier) than the lame event this dude is hosting.

Haha.  For real though, my wife and I are hosting a cookout at our home in downtown Atlanta on Saturday, May 3rd @ 2pmEverybody is welcome – kids, friends, family – heck even pets if they are small and house trained! Let me give you a taste of the menu and some relevant details.

The Menu Will Have:

-Beef burgers, Turkey Burgers, and a Few Veggie Burgers
-Steaks
-Ribs
-Grilled Chicken Breasts & Wings
-Grilled Salmon (This is only for those of you that I really like…Salmon is expensive – haha)
-All beef hotdogs, turkey hotdogs, smoked sausage
-Maybe a few other surprises
-Plenty of summertime side dishes – including some vegetarian options
-Desserts will be determined in the days ahead

In addition to the good food, we are going to have a ton of games going on, will have the Wii going on for the kids, the swimming pool
will likely be open and can be viewed from our house, and we will
definitely have some good discussions and debates raging as well.

More
than anything else, Rai and I want to use this time to thank many of
you for your support of us across the years and we want to reveal some
details about our upcoming church plant in downtown Atlanta that will
be launching in late ‘08.  We’ll be sharing some key details about our
plans and will take up an offering (just kidding…I think)!

Leave a comment on here or shoot me an email if you wanna come.  We look forward to seeing you soon!

Shaun & Rai-Tonicia King (And the Whole King Team)

PS – Let me know if you have any special dietary issues so we can hook you up.

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RossshaunI just learned that I have been accepted into the next class of LEAD Atlanta.  I am very amped and hope to make the very best of a good opportunity.    I did my interview last week with one of the best photographers in the city.  Because I assumed that all photographers MUST have their cameras within arms length at all times (like I must be carrying a sermon in my back pocket), I asked him to snap a shot.  We got a good laugh, because the best we could do was an iPhone shot.

Thanks Ross!  (Thanks to Kevin for the recommendation)

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Courage.  It is the thing that is required for us to put our faith into action.  You see a vision.  You have a dream.  You may even have plans.  God has placed much of this on your heart and into the very fiber of who you are.  However, in order for you to cross over the giant canyon of plans and dreams and into the amazing, adventurous destiny of the Lord – it is going to take COURAGE.  God parted the Red Sea, but it took courage for Moses to cross through.  It took courage for Jesus to stare death in the face and give his life willingly.  It took courage for Dr. King and the countless civil rights leaders of yesterday to stare evil in the face through non-violent marches and sit-ins.  But those men and women knew that faith without courage is not really faith at all.  A movement, a courageous movement, is about to begin in downtown Atlanta.  More details coming soon…

(Read Deuteronomy 31:5-8 to learn more)

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Craig Groeschel, the Senior Pastor of LifeChurch.tv has been writing this week about the importance of saying thank-you to the people that have impacted and influenced your life.  Over the next few days, I am going to highlight just a small sample of some of the people that I know and don’t know that have played a positive role in shaping the good of who I am.

Before I thank any pastors or legends or superstars, I want to take a moment to say thank you to a very special person that has "been there" for me for all 28 years of my life – my mother, Kay King. 

Mom, as a single-mother I saw you work your tail off day in and day out to provide a good living for your sons.   It wasn’t from Dr. King, Ghandi, or even from the Bible that I learned the value of treating all people with fairness and dignity, it was from watching you do this.  You have worked at the Sylvania Lamp Plant for 35 years.  Through your consistent and amazing work there, you built inside of me a strong work ethic and a heart for the hard-working people of our country.

Growing up, I had no idea of the major responsibility that was on your shoulders because you always went out of your way to take such good care of us.  You kept us dressed well, always made provisions for our passions and hobbies, heck – you even watched WWF with me and watched me perform flying elbow drops and pile drivers on pillows so that I could show you how tough I was.  Because of these things, I do the same things with my kids.

You have been there for me through three painful spinal surgeries, a life-altering car accident, and all of the ups and downs that come with being the mother of Shaun King.  Just as I know that my wife will always be there for me, I know the same thing about you.  This gives me a base of strength to work from that gives me great confidence in a shaky world.

Mom – thank you for these things and much, much more.

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Keys
Today I received new keys for a new office for a very new tomorrow in my life and in the life of my family.  Dr. Jim Howell, the very cool and kind Senior Pastor of this esteemed church in downtown Atlanta has agreed to provide free office space for the next year or so for the church plant that I will be leading in midtown Atlanta later this year.  I received the keys to our office space on Ponce earlier this afternoon and felt almost like I did when I received the keys to my first car a dozen years ago.  In the days and weeks ahead I will be blogging about all of the adventurous details of this new journey that we are on.  We have some big news that I am very excited to share and hope you’ll stay tuned.

Tomorrow I will blog some more about my transition out of Total Grace and into what lies ahead.  Please continue to pray for us.  We need it!

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Father Michael Pfleger of Saint Sabina in Chicago was interviewed by Fox News recently.  This video is why he is one of my heroes and role models.  Honesty comes with a price, but Father Pfleger keeps it real.  THIS IS A MUST-SEE VIDEO.  Shout out to Jack & Jill for providing the video.

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I have only been blogging for about a month now and I have learned that it takes a ton of time to do it well.  Tuesday’s are always incredibly busy for me, so I am writing this on borrowed time.  Here are 10 Things I Hope Happen Today.

10.  I leave the house in 25 minutes or less….starting now.

9.  I resist the urge to check this site every 3 minutes to watch election coverage.

8.  I want my oldest daughter, Taeyonna, to do well on her CRCT standardized test today (and all week).

7.  Clear off and respond to all of my outstanding voice mail messages.

6.  Vacuum the bedrooms.

5.  I hope Barack wins, but I will reluctantly settle for a close (5-7 point) loss.

4.  I eat a healthy lunch and not fast food garbage.

3. I need to talk to some important friends today about my recent decisions.

2. Ezekiel goes to bed at a better time so that I can watch election coverage in peace.

1. See # 5 (best I could do – in a hurry…see #10)

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Sicko
The award-winning documentary guru, Michael Moore, speaks his raw and revealing thoughts about the election.  You can also check it out here.

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Friends,

I don’t get to vote for President this primary season. I live in
Michigan. The party leaders (both here and in D.C.) couldn’t get their
act together, and thus our votes will not be counted.

So, if you live in Pennsylvania, can you do me a favor? Will you please
cast my vote — and yours — on Tuesday for Senator Barack Obama?

I haven’t spoken publicly ’til now as to who I would vote for,
primarily for two reasons: 1) Who cares?; and 2) I (and most people I
know) don’t give a rat’s ass whose name is on the ballot in November,
as long as there’s a picture of JFK and FDR riding a donkey at the top
of the ballot, and the word "Democratic" next to the candidate’s name.

Seriously, I know so many people who don’t care if the name under the
Big "D" is Dancer, Prancer, Clinton or Blitzen. It can be Mickey Mouse,
Donald Duck, Barry Obama or the Dalai Lama.

Well, that sounded good last year, but over the past two months, the
actions and words of Hillary Clinton have gone from being merely
disappointing to downright disgusting. I guess the debate last week was
the final straw. I’ve watched Senator Clinton and her husband play this
game of appealing to the worst side of white people, but last
Wednesday, when she hurled the name "Farrakhan" out of nowhere, well
that’s when the silly season came to an early end for me. She said the
"F" word to scare white people, pure and simple. Of course, Obama has
no connection to Farrakhan. But, according to Senator Clinton, Obama’s
pastor does — AND the "church bulletin" once included a Los Angeles
Times op-ed from some guy with Hamas! No, not the church bulletin!

This sleazy attempt to smear Obama was brilliantly explained the
following night by Stephen Colbert. He pointed out that if Obama is
supported by Ted Kennedy, who is Catholic, and the Catholic Church is
led by a Pope who was in the Hitler Youth, that can mean only one
thing: OBAMA LOVES HITLER!

Yes, Senator Clinton, that’s how you sounded. Like you were nuts. Like
you were a bigot stoking the fires of stupidity. How sad that I would
ever have to write those words about you. You have devoted your life to
good causes and good deeds. And now to throw it all away for an office
you can’t win unless you smear the black man so much that the
superdelegates cry "Uncle (Tom)" and give it all to you.

But that can’t happen. You cast your die when you voted to start this
bloody war. When you did that you were like Moses who lost it for a
moment and, because of that, was prohibited from entering the Promised
Land.

How sad for a country that wanted to see the first woman elected to the
White House. That day will come — but it won’t be you. We’ll have to
wait for the current Democratic governor of Kansas to run in 2016 (you
read it here first!).

There are those who say Obama isn’t ready, or he’s voted wrong on this
or that. But that’s looking at the trees and not the forest. What we
are witnessing is not just a candidate but a profound, massive public
movement for change. My endorsement is more for Obama The Movement than
it is for Obama the candidate.

That is not to take anything away from this exceptional man. But what’s
going on is bigger than him at this point, and that’s a good thing for
the country. Because, when he wins in November, that Obama Movement is
going to have to stay alert and active. Corporate America is not going
to give up their hold on our government just because we say so.
President Obama is going to need a nation of millions to stand behind
him.

I know some of you will say, ‘Mike, what have the Democrats done to
deserve our vote?’ That’s a damn good question. In November of ‘06, the
country loudly sent a message that we wanted the war to end. Yet the
Democrats have done nothing. So why should we be so eager to line up
happily behind them?

I’ll tell you why. Because I can’t stand one more friggin’ minute of
this administration and the permanent, irreversible damage it has done
to our people and to this world. I’m almost at the point where I don’t
care if the Democrats don’t have a backbone or a kneebone or a thought
in their dizzy little heads. Just as long as their name ain’t "Bush"
and the word "Republican" is not beside theirs on the ballot, then
that’s good enough for me.

I, like the majority of Americans, have been pummeled senseless for 8
long years. That’s why I will join millions of citizens and stagger
into the voting booth come November, like a boxer in the 12th round,
all bloodied and bruised with one eye swollen shut, looking for the
only thing that matters — that big "D" on the ballot.

Don’t get me wrong. I lost my rose-colored glasses a long time ago.

It’s foolish to see the Democrats as anything but a nicer version of a
party that exists to do the bidding of the corporate elite in this
country. Any endorsement of a Democrat must be done with this
acknowledgement and a hope that one day we will have a party that’ll
represent the people first, and laws that allow that party an equal
voice.

Finally, I want to say a word about the basic decency I have seen in
Mr. Obama. Mrs. Clinton continues to throw the Rev. Wright up in his
face as part of her mission to keep stoking the fears of White America.
Every time she does this I shout at the TV, "Say it, Obama! Say that
when she and her husband were having marital difficulties regarding
Monica Lewinsky, who did she and Bill bring to the White House for
’spiritual counseling?’ THE REVEREND JEREMIAH WRIGHT!"

But no, Obama won’t throw that at her. It wouldn’t be right. It
wouldn’t be decent. She’s been through enough hurt. And so he remains
silent and takes the mud she throws in his face.

That’s why the crowds who come to see him are so large. That’s why
he’ll take us down a more decent path. That’s why I would vote for him
if Michigan were allowed to have an election.

But the question I keep hearing is… ‘can he win? Can he win in
November?’ In the distance we hear the siren of the death train called
the Straight Talk Express. We know it’s possible to hear the words
"President McCain" on January 20th. We know there are still many
Americans who will never vote for a black man. Hillary knows it, too.
She’s counting on it.

Pennsylvania, the state that gave birth to this great country, has a
chance to set things right. It has not had a moment to shine like this
since 1787 when our Constitution was written there. In that
Constitution, they wrote that a black man or woman was only "three
fifths" human. On Tuesday, the good people of Pennsylvania have a
chance for redemption.

Yours,
Michael Moore
MichaelMoore.com
MMFlint@aol.com

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Today was one of the biggest, toughest days of our life.  At about 4 pm or so today, my wife, Rai, asked me if she could blog about it on here.  So, let me recap something amazing – my wife watched a UFC pay-per-view with me last night and is writing a guest blog today.  I obviously married the right woman.  For real though – here it is (love you babe):

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I am writing a blog for the first time. I have to. I need someone to talk to. Not
like my best friend talk to, not like Shaun, not like my mom, not even like God
talk to…yeah seriously. I’ve already
talked to God. I’ve talked to Him a lot
actually over these past couple of weeks. But there are still some unresolved things I’m dealing with. This afternoon I told my best friend (Hey Michele!) this
same thing. We brainstormed about who I
could call…other friends, old wise people, etc. But there was no one in my phone’s contacts
that gave me that "ah hah that’s who I need to speak to"
feeling. So, after much deliberation and
moping around I’ve decided just to write and then share…well maybe share,
depending on how this goes.

Today was a tough day! Today it was announced to our church that we are leaving. Shaun and I and our family are leaving our
current church (where he is lead elder over a satellite location), to start a
church of our own. That always sounds
strange. I don’t mean "our
own" because the church belongs to God, not us, and it’s not a business,
it’s a ministry, so claiming it as "ours" sounds weird. That’s not what I mean. We are setting out to start a ministry with a
very specific vision that we feel has come from the Lord. That’s better. But it’s against the advice of
some
, yet to the enthusiastic encouragement of others. It is against my need for security (Shaun had
a job that paid real money, took care of real bills, and fed real, hungry
children), but it fulfills the dream he has had for so long, and that I want to
see him fulfill. So I’m torn. I’m scared, but I’m excited.

I’m hurt too though. I hate to leave the people we’ve served with and have grown to love-the
people who have followed our pastors, but who were more closely following us. That’s the worst. Part of me feels like we’re abandoning
them. I hope they know that we’ll carry
them in our hearts forever. I hope they
know that we genuinely, truly love them. I pray that God will dry their tears and mend their hearts, as He dries
and mends mine (Brooklyn, Sam, and Cassandra…we are the biggest cry babies…I love you all). God knows it has not
been our intention to hurt or disappoint anybody. The church will go on without
us. As a matter of fact, I hope it
thrives! It’s God’s, not ours.

But really the truth is that I am sick of church. I really, truly am! It’s messy, and even fake at times. I see why much of the country is moving away from
Christianity. So many churches serve the
needs of the pastor-to be validated, needed, preferred, taken care of,
etc.-instead of serving the needs of the people by leading them to Christ. I’m quite disgusted with the whole
thing. So, I’m really trusting that
Shaun and I are going to be able to do this differently. I know so many pastors start out saying the
same thing, and then loose their way. God forbid this should happen to us! *Disclaimer* I am not at all speaking of the church we just came from.  It has been good to/for us.  I will never say otherwise.

I am clinging to my
husband’s vision for a congregation of people that love God, love people, and
prove it!
I don’t know if he knows it,
but he’s my last hope. I need him to
walk the straight and narrow. I need him
to stay before the Lord. I need him to
think of others more than himself, to be humble and to serve, never puffed up
or boastful because of his gifts and talents. And I certainly need him to never involve us in any type of
scandal-especially nothing that resembles the mess we see played out in the
media today among “God’s people.” No
messy divorces, no fights in the parking lot, no affairs producing children all
over the city (my kids need their mother free, not in jail for murder) ;-0 -I’m
just kidding….really, I’m not that type.

I know we won’t be perfect, and thus neither will the church
we shepherd. We are both young, a little
naïve (some might say a lot), and are apt to fall flat on our faces. But here’s what I know for sure: we won’t
spend the whole of our lives working in jobs that don’t fulfill us (I teach
first grade by the way), never going after the visions God has given us. Nope! That won’t be our testimony. Shaun will never wonder what could have been. I love him for that.  I am
very aware that this could fail, and all the naysayers might say “I told you
so.” But you know what, it’s worth
it. I’m following him, as he attempts to
follow God. I can go to fake church
anywhere, any day of the week. But now
my husband is my pastor, and I am going to “his” church because I believe in
him, and I believe in his vision…Wow!! I’ve come a long way to be able to say that. Some of these things I say and believe in
faith….Lord help my unbelief!…I’m trying so hard not to be scared to death!!

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35000Why did 35,000 people of every background come out to Independence Hall last night?  See here.

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Saturday is Clean the House Day

April 19, 2008

Sunday through Friday are crazy days for the King Team.  By the team it gets to Saturday, our house has the tendency to look like a tornado.  We used to think that something was wrong with us because our house didn’t look like we were the Huxtables, but we have learned that with two working [...]

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Women In Ministry (and Ministerial Leadership)

April 18, 2008

A few days ago this Seattle pastor that I admire tremendously wrote a widely read (and commented on) article that deals, in part, with the issue of women in ministry and the lack of advocacy on the part of influential leaders who claim to support the notion.  As a father of two daughters that have [...]

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